Conversation with Jody
How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a Mindset Coach?
To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a few defining moments that got me to where I am today. I’m a paradox: a type A gypsy, a conservative liberal, a gold star rule breaker, and a recovering overachiever.
In 2007, my mother passed away suddenly in a car accident. I tried to approach grief as another course to pass. Just study the modules, take the test, and I could be done with it. I threw myself into a slew of unhealthy relationships that I took on as projects: side hustles to the gig of navigating trauma.
In 2009, I got married. I chose a wonderful man with very little baggage thinking he could carry mine. I moved across the country and less than a year later found myself pregnant.
In 2013, just months after I had my second child, I began struggling with my new identity as a mom. I had prided myself on adventure and change: an unconventional, magical approach to life, and here I was stuck in the monotony of daily living as a wife and mom. Without realizing it, my husband and kids had become checkmarks on my bucket list, and I found myself thrilled and irritable, bored yet overwhelmed, thankful and disappointed, and itching to move on to what was next.
I hated myself for not being more satisfied with my life. Isn’t this what I’ve always wanted?
Instead of allowing and processing my disappointment, I just started adding more plates to my juggling act.
Swimming in grief? I should get married. Bored already? Let’s have kids. Rough spot in marriage? I should start a business. Nothing looked like I thought it would, and I wasn’t ok with it. After a year of building Untangled as a creative product business, I decided something had to change. Years of spinning had left me dizzy with overwhelm, grief, and disappointment.
Getting certified as a life coach was the equivalent of an emotional child's pose: surrender. breathe. be.
Disappointment is a powerful catalyst for change.
Once I surrendered, I awakened to my patterns of self sabatoge. I have channeled all the energy that I was using to run away from life and worked diligently to infuse my disappointment with love and profound purpose.
I am now an advocate for diligent, intentional growth and radical self-love. Instead of distracting myself with a do more, get more, have more sprint ethic, I found the unforced rhythm of grace. And I’ve built my entire business to help people embrace the truth that living things grow and growing things change.
As a mindset coach and spiritual teacher, I have created The Untangled Life: an eight-week foundation to transform your mind and change the lens through which you view your life. Every ambitious go-getter needs to examine the soundtrack that is running their life. I teach women just like you how to stop long enough to recognize their feelings and listen close enough to expose their thoughts. This Untangling process allows women to identify the patterns, distractions and limiting beliefs that are keeping them stuck and overwhelmed.
I work with people just like you who are ambitious, driven, and discontent; and I provide you the thought management tools that equip you to take radical responsibility for your life.
I work with:
• creatives • makers • solo and entrepreneurs • overwhelmed moms • frustrated husbands • resentful wives • body therapists and workers • healing professionals • families of special needs • counselors • couples about to throw in the towel • chronic overachievers • people pleasers • spiritual teachers
What makes you different from other “mindset coaches”?
Pop Psychology has introduced all sorts of fancy lingo for thought management: metacognition, cognitive behavior therapy, dialectics…in its simplest form, a belief is just a thought you have over and over.
I walk you through a formula that allows you to quickly see how the results you’re getting in your life are in direct correlation to your belief system. We bring to light some of the unconscious thoughts that have been steering your direction and draining your energy for far too long.
I take a holistic approach to your emotional health which means no rock goes unturned. You will quickly see that every issue in your life can be transformed into something that works for you instead of against you.
I’m pretty hardcore when it comes to teaching you to be honest with yourself. So many women have spent far too long being everything for everyone else and have lost touch with their inner voice and intuition. I will help you reconnect with your authentic truth, and then we will work fiercely together to build the boundaries and structure that bring your deepest dreams into life.
I don’t want you to waste any more time trying to get away from your life.
Whether you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, transitioning through a divorce, contemplating a career change, or desperate for a work-life balance: THIS. METHOD. WORKS.
What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me?
The Untangled Life coaching programs were created for people who are determined to break through their overwhelm. Most of the people that contact me are frustrated with their inability to "fix it" this time, because they've spent most of their lives successfully finding solutions to their problems.
I’m looking for people who are ready to develop a clear vision for their lives. Your clarity will come as you finally begin to process the junk that has been holding you back.
I am willing to sit with you as you sort it out. I will listen to your stories and expose your excuses. And I’ll help YOU become the expert of your own life.
I want to know that you’re committed to the process. These programs are not about perfection, but rather growth….which ultimately means that as soon as you get one thing figured out, another opportunity will arise. Lean in. Push through. The spring of our soul follows the barrenness of winter. Don’t. Give. Up.
For what type of professionals are your programs NOT going to work?
Now that I no longer work so tirelessly to please others, I’ve given myself permission to be super selective in whom I choose to work with. I only choose clients who are really committed to changing the script of their story.
The Untangled coaching programs are not for people who are ready to invest in themselves. One of my superpowers is empathy, so I really do understand and relate to the stories of hardship and misfortune. However, I have also seen tremendous breakthroughs in the people that are willing to commit wholeheartedly to the time and money invested in their wellbeing.
What exactly is The Untangled Mindset Makeover: an 8 week program to eliminate guilt, resentment, and overwhelm
Some of you have followed my business since inception, and others are just happening upon me, but this program provides the exact formula I use to help women in various stages of their lives find their voice, change their minds, and reclaim their zest for life.
We begin with an intense look at where you are and where you want to be. This process really helps uncover what it is you really think about yourself and your life.
Angry? Own it. Disappointed? Yep. Overwhelmed? I get it, and I will help you out. You’ve got to see and really understand your inherent value. You don’t have to hide from your truth or hustle for your worth. YOU. ARE. ENOUGH.
Here’s what the program gets you to do:
- Generate Awareness
We will work together to get to the root issues that are holding you back. I will listen earnestly to identify the beliefs that are keeping you tangled up, and teach you practical tools that allow you to connect the dots between your thoughts, feelings, and results.
This work is about intense mindfulness: shining a light on the thoughts that are running in the background of your life. I’ll help you switch out the lens through which you view your past, and teach you how to infuse your story with love.
I will teach you a formula that equips you to quickly identify subconscious patterns in order to step into your life with full presence and authenticity.
- Awaken Your Soul This all sounds very fluffy and ideal, but trust me, my friend: once you become aware of the junk that’s been holding you back, your truest self can’t help but awaken to the dreams and possibilities that have been lying dormant for far too long.
Once we’ve established mindfulness as a practice, we will take that same energy into really evaluating your self-image. I’ll help you re-claim your worthiness and walk in complete freedom and fulfillment in your relationships, career, and life.
- Get Aligned
Here’s where we find the clarity you’ve been longing for. We’ll identify your true desires and establish soulful, value-driven goals. You won’t be working as hard to please other people, portray a productive life, market your business from a checklist mindset, or keep the laundry done.
Instead, the actions that you will take from this point on will be intentional, thought out steps towards a custom-tailored life that you have designed.
Does this really work?
Yes! The result of our work together is a complete mindset shift. You will never be able to look at your life through the same lens now that you've rediscovered the value and beauty you bring to the world. Instead of your ambition determining your worth, your deep-rooted worth will fuel your ambition. The results you create from this place will blow your mind.
What results can I expect?
You can expect to:
Gain unshakeable confidence in yourself – (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment alone).
Learn proven techniques for releasing your internal resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies, so you can take action and start living your passion and purpose with ease.
Show up in your relationships from a place of love and abundance because you’ve learned that no one else is responsible for your feelings.
Get crystal clear on what you want from your life, and come up with an action plan to lay out the journey of how to get there.
Leverage your time in a way that allows you to either delegate tasks or eliminate “have to's” so that you will feel more balanced.
Recognize, process, and ultimately clear any resentment that you’ve been carrying.
Identify your core values and use them as a filter for your decision making.
Draw boundaries as a container system for your life. Every “yes” will be more powerful, and saying no will be easier.
Script your story in a way that allows you to accept full responsibility for your life.
Get familiar with the essential tools that will help you manage your thoughts and emotions instead of having your life ruled by your fluctuating feelings.
Create new goals for your life and business every 90 days in order to stay on an intentional growth trajectory.
Cultivate daily habits that you’ve deemed important in order to get out of the self-help junkie cycle. You’ll be building your own success strategy instead of simply regurgitating all the books, articles, and courses you’ve taken over the years.
Set up an accountability system that keeps you moving towards your goals.
Develop a strong and powerful relationship with yourself so that you stop looking at others to make you happy.
Can I contact some of your former clients to see what it’s like to work with you?
I love sharing client wins! Please look through my website and review a few of the testimonies.
How quickly can I expect results?
That depends on how quickly you can make those inner shifts that provide the framework for your new and improved belief in yourself. Some clients are ready to take full responsibility for their thought life in a short time frame, and sometimes it takes a few weeks for people to be able to identify that their thoughts are not facts.
I always encourage you to set very specific goals for what you want to get out of the program so that you can take ownership of your progress.
How can I guarantee myself results from this program?
Do all of your homework. Be totally committed to your process. Show up without distraction, and diligently apply your new framework in your daily life.
If at any point you want to dig deeper into a subject we’re discussing, I encourage you to theoretically raise your hand and ask. Imagine yourself as a student in the classroom of life. You get to take responsibility for your growth.
Will I recover the investment I put into this coaching program?
Yes….a resounding trumpeted YES! The return on your investment will show up in ways you haven’t even imagined yet. Clients report that they thought they were coming into the program to make a career decision and end up completely reigniting passion in their marriage. Others will say that they came into the program to process their grief and disappointment and walk away with complete clarity for their next steps towards a happier life.
We often assume that a return on investment requires a money spent/money earned, dollar for dollar equation. What you’ll discover in this program is that investing in your mind (the only thing you’re really ever in control of) yields incredible results in all of your commodities: time, money, relationships, and dreams. YOU are your most valuable asset.
Ultimately, The Untangled Mindset Makeover will be like a fog lifting on the landscape of your life, and you’ll be captivated by the horizon.